How Increased Confidence Can Help You Get What
You Want
This might
sound like the cheesy-kind of advice your parents might have given you, but it
really is true that confidence can get you pretty much whatever you want. That
and being yourself.
If you want
to get a date, succeed in your career or otherwise take any aspect of your life
to the next level, then boosting your confidence is one of the best ways to accomplish that. Here’s why…
What Confidence Really Means
If you have
ever met an alpha male, or a woman who just seems to have everything under
control, then you might have noticed that they are usually very confident. The
truth is that the whole reason they appear
so successful is that confidence. That’s because confidence sends a
powerful signal – it says ‘I consider myself to be a catch’.
Speaking in
evolutionary terms, confidence suggests that you are a good potential mate, or
a superior competitor. Even if someone is short, poorly dressed and unappealing
– if they are supremely confidence then it will seem as though they know
something you don’t. The assumption is that they must have a reason to be that confident.
And thus we
instantly assume that this person is somehow our superior: that we should try
to impress them, or try to be more like them. That’s why we gravitate toward
confident people, want to date them and want to be liked by them.
A lot of
people don’t realize the importance of confidence and they think it is enough
to be nice. They assume that by acting nice, they will get people to like them
and they can that way overcome their looks, their stature, or their status.
But if you
don’t have any self-confidence and you act very nice, then this can actually
backfire: it starts to seem as though you want
something and that you are being a creep in order to get it.
Conversely,
if you act a little less needy, if you can show yourself to be highly capable
and impressive and then you chat to someone in a friendly and open manner… then
people will be won over by your charm and your appeal. This niceness seems much
more genuine because you appear like you don’t need help from everyone.
So guys:
stop trying to win the girl by being nice.
Employees,
stop trying to get the job by being self-deprecating.
Act like
you know your worth and then layer niceness on top of that. That is the winning
combination!
